Have you ever wondered why some children have the confidence to stand up straight, look you in the eye and make perfect sense when they speak, whilst your own child examines his feet, or worse still, gazes at the TV or tablet, whilst talking complete and utter sausages!
Do you look and admire those university bred twenty somethings from America when they are articulating their very strong opinion on a wordwide matter and think… will my child ever be like this? I do.
So, whilst remembering how pathetically shy I was at school (definitely not one of the cool gang) and how I used to skulk at the back of classes and playground trying to avoid attention, I have to have faith that my daughter will come good.
My turning point probably came when I was 16 in all honesty. Out of the school environment, I slowly blossomed, and within a year of working , I felt valued and more confident. To the point, that I am sure any of my old friends will say, Seriously! Shy! No way!!
But those school years, whilst you are waiting for confidence to emerge, can be painfully long.
And as we read so frequently in the press, bullying has become even more dangerous. Mind games are played, not just at school, but through social media, and we have to equip our children with a defence strategy that will protect them .
So taking a look at confidence building skills is a number one priority. Making sure our kids can take on those evil bullies, not necessarily physically, but mentally.
Now I am an absolute addict of reading parental skills articles. I love them, especially when I read that I have been doing it all right. The Bad Moms movies sadly highlighted many of my failings too, but no one is perfect!
However I have seen very little written about the American method of teaching show & tell’ in schools. Way back when, myself and a couple of English speaking mums were running an English club for spanish children aged 5-8, we would meet every week at the local school and introduce the little ones to an hour of singing dancing, telling stories and making simple crafts. The children loved it and progressed gradually to a basic vocabulary in English.
Then we introduced Show&Tell.
Each child took a turn to bring in a treasured toy and stood in front of the class to tell them about it. There was often a lot of demonstrating too, and it could get chaotic. But it worked on the basic principle that whilst being distracted by the toy, they weren’t embarrassed to stand up and speak publicly.
Sadly, I do not think this technique is used enough. Being forced to stand up in class and read aloud does not count!
We, at MyGeckoBox, are planning some new workshops within our local community of Mijas. A step in the direction of crafting and learning, so maybe we will have an opportunity to encourage some confidence building skills whilst we do these.
In the meantime, try it at home and see if you can get your seemingly robotic, alien speaking child to get passionate about a favourite toy, you might be pleasantly surprised.
We can do this!